The habits and beliefs children develop around food early in life can shape their relationship with eating for years to come. Here’s what we know — and what we see in practice every day.
Let them explore — don’t tell them what they should like.
Kids are often looking for autonomy when it comes to food. Creating a power struggle by insisting a child eat something they don’t want to creates a natural rebellion. Instead, explore taste and texture together — ask what they do and don’t like, and help them figure it out.
Expose them to a wide variety of foods, and don’t skip offering something just because you assume they won’t like it. Tastes and preferences change over time, and it often takes repeated exposures before a new food is accepted.
What we see in practice: A long list of fruits and vegetables a child has never been exposed to is incredibly common. They might not like or accept a food right away — but keep offering it anyway.
Don’t push protein the way adults do.
While adults need around 30–40% of their daily intake from protein, kids need much less — around 10–15%. Kids need to be carb-heavy because they are growing, and growth requires a tremendous amount of energy that comes from carbohydrates.
Notice how kids are naturally drawn to carbs? That’s their body’s innate signal telling them exactly what they need more of. Trust that instinct.
Stop labeling foods as “good” or “bad.”
When a child hears that a food is good or bad, they internalize that as something they should or shouldn’t do. If a food is labeled “bad,” a child may feel bad — even inherently immoral — for eating it, or feel like they’re letting you down.
This kind of messaging creates emotional eating, sneak eating, and power struggles. Food is food. We want some of all of it. Make food neutral, and keep it that way.
Never tell a child to “work off” what they ate.
Telling a child they need to exercise to burn off food sets up a compensatory, transactional relationship with both eating and movement. Food should be recognized as nourishment — not something to be earned or punished for. Everyone eats past fullness sometimes, and that’s okay.
Framing exercise as punitive makes every experience stressful and unenjoyable, setting up a negative relationship with both food and physical activity from the very start.
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